Monthly Archive: May 2015

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#TBT – 5 Things Every Man Needs to Learn Before He Gets Married

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Wedding season is in full swing. This 2014 article is for the men interested in being married one day.

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I’ve been married for almost two years, but I still feel compelled at times to share bits of wisdom I’ve collected over the years with singles that have intentions of being married some day. I think it’s especially important for married men to share with single men because so much of what we have all been taught about being a man is counterproductive to having a good marriage. I hope current husbands will also find this list useful because sometimes we don’t realize we’ve brought some unhealthy beliefs into our relationship until after we’re married. That said, here’s a simple list of five things every man should know before tying the knot.

 1. Women are people, not objects

Seems obvious, right? Unfortunately too many men have grown up believing women are objects to be collected or challenges to be conquered. This is a global problem, but this first lesson is especially important for the millions of black men who grew up hearing men that look like them casually refer to women as “bitches” and “hoes” in their music, in movies, and on TV shows. Understanding this fact will impact every interaction you have with a woman, whether as a single man on the dating scene or a married man at work. Most men will give lip service to how precious women are when they are talking about their own mother, aunts, grandmother, or daughters. Sadly, some of the same men who talk about their love for mom will leave their mother’s house and harass the first woman they see on the street. Your future wife will have her own thoughts, desires, ambitions, and feelings, but it will be hard for you to receive them and value them if you don’t see her as your equal. Always remember, “objects are collected, people are respected”.

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America’s Real God

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What’s one thing many American Christians love more than Jesus? Power.

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The debate over the role of religion in the public square is not new. Following the recent controversy surrounding Indiana’s religious-freedom laws, we’ve heard from Christians on both sides of the political spectrum who believe their faith informs their views on important social issues.

I recently came across an article that talked about how the “New Christian Left” is twisting the gospel. The author unpacked a number of points related to the tension between traditional biblical teachings and contemporary moral values. She also listed three different types of evangelical Christians that have emerged in these unique times–those who stay silent on major cultural issues, those who pick and choose which parts of the bible they want to live by, and those who operate in mercy and grace while still sharing the gospel message with their neighbors. Up to this point I didn’t really have any major issue with what I was reading. Then the author said this:

I know about these three types of Christians because at one time or another I have fallen into each of these three categories. My parents will tell you that even though I was raised in church, I morphed into a full-fledged feminist, told my parents they were ignorant for not endorsing homosexuality and bought into the distorted social justice rhetoric that confuses caring for the poor with advancing socialist or big government systems and demonizing the United States for its free market system.

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